“You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day, all the time. You have to keep remembering the bad things. It’s too much work.””
–Frank Roennfeldt
Summary:
Forgiveness sets you free and the best revenge is living well.
The next time someone cuts you up on the road, forgive them instantly and note how it feels.
Detail:
Shake off those negative emotions like residue in your footprints – your emotional states are a chosen yet controllable state.
“Has anyone died?” Nothing generates a sense of perspective than this shocking retort when dealing with the next catastrophe at work.
“Gonna need to ask for forgiveness rather than permission on this one” Used before the request goes out about why didn’t you talk this one through?
Carrying grudges is a heavy load and saps energy. When you forgive that incident is over and you can move on.
Some areas that need forgiveness are harder than others.
What is undeniable is it is better than the alternative.
Equally, learn to forgive yourself also.
Skill:
- Practice empathy: Try to see things from the other person’s perspective and understand their point of view. This can help you cultivate compassion and empathy.
- Let go of resentment: Recognize that holding onto anger and resentment harms yourself more than anyone else. Decide to release these negative emotions and let go of grudges.
- Focus on the present moment: Instead of dwelling on past hurts, focus on the present moment and the positive things in your life.
- Be patient: Forgiveness takes time and effort, so be patient with yourself and the process.
- Practice self-forgiveness: Forgive yourself for past mistakes and shortcomings. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s part of being human.
- Seek support: Consider seeking support from a therapist or trusted friend to help you process your feelings and emotions.
- Practice gratitude: Focus on the good things in your life and express gratitude for them. This can help shift your mindset towards positivity and forgiveness.
By following these tips, you can condition yourself for a mindset of forgiveness and experience greater peace and happiness in your life.
Action:
Do
Difficulty:
Medium-Hard
Speed:
Immediate
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